As a Lic Marriage and Family Therapist, one of the most common themes I see in couples therapy is not necessarily that couples “didn’t love each other enough,” but rather that they entered marriage with very different understandings of what marriage actually meant. Many couples spend enormous amounts of time planning a wedding, yet very little time discussing the structural foundation of the marriage itself. Love is important. Attraction matters. Chemistry matters. But long-term relationships...

Change can feel like a storm at sea - unpredictable, sometimes overwhelming, yet often necessary to reach calmer waters. When we think about therapy, embracing change is not just a part of the process; it can be the very tool that guides us toward healing and growth. I want to share with you how welcoming change in therapeutic approaches can transform your journey toward emotional well-being and healthier relationships. Understanding Change in Therapeutic Approaches Therapy is not a...

There is a pattern I often see in my work as a psychotherapist—one that keeps people tethered to relationships long after they’ve stopped feeling safe, seen, or respected. It isn’t always love that keeps someone stuck. It’s hope. But not the kind of hope that heals or builds.The kind that distorts. The hope that kills. Loving the Idea, Not the Reality Many clients don’t stay because of who their partner consistently shows themselves to be. They stay because of a version of that person—one...